It's been a couple weeks since I've posted. Hope everyone had a nice Thanksgiving!
Before I get into today's blog, I want to do a quick check-in...
How are you doing?
Close your eyes and take a deep breath. Let your shoulders relax, unclench your jaw, and drop your tongue from the roof of your mouth. Take another deep breath.
How are you doing, right now?
If you answered that your cold, put on a sweatshirt, grab a blanket, sit by your space heater or fireplace, or make some hot tea. If you're tired, sit on the couch & prop your feet up, or lay down and close your eyes for a bit. If your anxious or stressed, take a hot bath or shower, listen to music, workout, or do something else that you enjoy, that reduces such feelings. If you answered with anything less than, "I'm doing great," figure out what it is that you need and take care of yourself. If you are operating at less than your ideal, you are serving no one as effectively as you could be.
The above exercise and excerpt were pulled from a book that I read a few months ago, and have decided to re-read, "The Nine Scoundrels: How to Recognize and Release Subtle Patterns of Sabotage".
The author, Deanna Reiter, continues to explain that, "Unfortunately, this is where many of us are operating. We often fail to embrace the current moment, and we lack contentment. We tend to avoid the present as much as we can. We think about the future and the past. We attempt to do several/multiple things at once, to distract us from the present moment."
I don't know about you, but this couldn't be more true for me!
When I have time, at home, to work on my to-do list, I often get overwhelmed and anxious because I have countless tasks on my list! Sometimes I don't even know where to start! If I don't have a strict deadline, I often find myself spinning my wheels, trying to figure out which task(s) I should attempt to tackle first...
I second guess myself - maybe this task isn't the most important or beneficial. Maybe I should do that task instead. I get so wrapped up in trying to figure out what the best plan and course of action is, that
Tasks that are ongoing, or take a long time, tend to really throw me off - I get distraught if I don't have enough time to completely finish a given task, so I avoid it all together.
Unfortunately, this Saturday, was a perfect example of this...
I had the house to myself, and planned on using the time to chip away at my to-do list.
The day before I wasn't able to check much off my list, so Saturday had to be different! However, I spent so much time stressing over all the things I want, need, and "should" be working on, that I spun my wheels and became incredibly overwhelmed. I put myself into a panic, and hardly got anything accomplished, other than increasing my anxiety and emotions!
I was so preoccupied trying to plan for all the things I needed to get done, and making sure I got more done than Friday, that I couldn't think clearly and effectively enough to prioritize and execute the tasks... My mind went to the past and the future. I felt like I had scrambled eggs for brains!
If I would have stayed more present in the current moment, I could have actually taken some action and accomplished a lot more!
Eventually, I checked-in with myself, and decided that I needed to move on, and relax for a bit. When I engaged in the present moment, I felt a huge shift... I was sitting on the couch, with my pup, and I was the most calm and content I had been all day! I was actually starting to mentally and physically feel better already! My stomach was beginning to settle, my mind stopped racing a mile a minute, I wasn't immobilized... I truly started to feel relief, and dare I say - content!
You may or may not have experienced something like this before... If not, I'm glad! Hopefully I don't sound too crazy! Haha! If you have, you know how frustrating it can be! Either way, it doesn't have to be an instance like this, it is still important to check-in with yourself, and try to be present during the given moment... it makes a huge difference! Don't allow yourself to get too preoccupied with the past or future!
Just something I thought might be helpful, especially with the chaos and distraction that comes with the holiday season!